Half way through year 2016. Time for a check up on my New year resolutions…

Half way through year 2016. Time for a check up on my New year resolutions

The list is pretty long!

In 2016 I will:

  1. Love and care about my wife, sons, family and friends all the time.

  2. Call my parents at least once a week

  3. Call my sisters and her family at least once a month

  4. Call, email a few friends every Wednesday (Friends Day)

  5. Do yoga and/or high impact exercise at least once a week, likely Saturday and/or Sunday Morning.

  6. Practice meditation, relaxation and/or mindfulness once a week

  7. Do 15 minutes exercises/movements after waking-up every morning.

  8. Work at the allotment 3 hours per week or more

  9. Cycle more

  10. Help K and A with Homework

  11. Do learning activities with A and E once a week

  12. Teach A Music once a month or more

  13. Do programming tutorial once a month or more with K

  14. Write a weekly meal planner with K on Sunday

  15. Continue reducing gluten and sugar

  16. Go to groups and swimming pool weekly with E

  17. Have time for myself weekly to do what I like

  18. Spend time with my wife without kids more often

  19. Go outside with kids more often, even when it rains!

  20. Spend minimum 5 hours working weekly on Super Busy Daddy project

  21. Post 1 article at least per month

  22. Spend at least 2 hours per week on Transition Town and Friend of the Earth activities

  23. Look for at least 1 ecovillage to visit this year

 

Let’s have a closer look at what I have been doing to achieve each resolution on that list, and let me give it a score:
0 nothing or only little done, have to review the goal or kick myself up
1/2 done a little bit but need to do more
1 done quite a few and it’s encouraging, keep it up!
2 Being fantastically doing well! I am proud of me and I should shout about it out loud…


Love and care about my wife, sons, family and friends all the time.
I think that I do a lot of effort to stay calm when my boys are fighting. It is really difficult to have children in young age, I can see it all around me and sometimes it’s good to remind us: we are all having tough time!
I think I can do better! Especially with my wife, who is going through a lot of physical and mental distress. On the friends side, I have been in touch with a very few of them but more often, and closer I should say. Still I am missing loads of them but this first part of 2016 has been difficult emotionally, mainly because of having 3 kids! With 2 of them having learning difficulties and/or developmental delays (That’s it! I’ve said it) and the 3rd one being very clever and very very sensitive. It is like if we where constantly on a roller coaster with up and downs, some calm but stressful moments when going up, then free fall… but without the ‘good’ fear, only having the ‘bad’ stress…
So Love is there, care is there, but stress is and anger is quite there too… Working on it!
Score: 1/2


Call my parents at least once a week.
We changed calling time from Sunday Morning to Sunday Evening and it has not worked very well, we actually have called less my parents this year than last year. We are (me first) usually too busy or not at home, on the Sunday end of afternoon and evening. It is good that we are busy doing things or going somewhere but we need to find a better timing, my parents are desperate to see their grand children more often.
Score: 0


Call my sisters and her family at least once a month.
This started well and I was quite amazed to hear that my sister had the same intention and without reading my blog!
So I think we have been in contact once a month indeed.
Score:1


Call, email a few friends every Wednesday (Friends Day).
I actually forgot about that one and I haven’t contacted any ‘old’ friends at all. Shame on me!
Score: 0


Do yoga and/or high impact exercise at least once a week, likely Saturday and/or Sunday Morning.

I have to say that this did not worked at all for the first 5 month… Nothing… Not even the slightest physical move. Apart from lifting toddlers all the time, if that counts. And hurting my back doing so…
But! Since June I have started a ‘Betty Rocker’ 30 days challenge! That is mixing high impact moves, a bit of yoga, and loads of different muscles isolation moves. And that is 15 minutes per day! That is ideal for a Super Busy Daddy always on a tight schedule.
I am at day 20 and I will not stop! I highly recommend it and it’s free. My wife actually encouraged me to start it. I am glad I did, because as all of you practising a sport regularly, once you start and you like it, you want more…
Score:1


Practice meditation, relaxation and/or mindfulness once a week.
Although it is something I am really keen on starting to do, something is sort of blocking me to do it. I am reading a mindfulness book sometimes to give me more ideas about how to practice this simple and effective meditation technique. I have the feeling that once I start I will start meditation, I will love it and will be good at it. So I am going to look for youtube tutorials!
Score:0


Do 15 minutes exercises/movements after waking-up every morning.

I deserve another point here, as I am doing it every morning now…
Score:1


Work at the allotment 3 hours per week or more
I have been working 3 hours per week on average I think. I would work in my allotment all the time if I could. Even if this year is once again quite frustrating, I am learning the hard way. I have underestimated damage that slugs, snails and birds could do… I am intending to actually blog about my allotment adventures, I am always taking photos of the work I am doing and of the overall state of the plot. Writing on it would help me to study and learn what works and what doesn’t.
Score:1


Cycle more
Luckily I did not committed to any figures about how much more cycling I needed to do. So even if I am still cycling just a little bit, I am actually cycling more. Yes,  something, even little,  is more than nothing.
Score:1/2


Help K and A with Homework
I am ashamed, I have not lift a finger to help my sons in their homework. I guess it’s not so important at their age, but the idea was to take the habit helping them regularly.
Score:0


Do learning activities with A and E once a week:
Same as above… Boohoo
Score:0


Teach A Music once a month or more:
I tried but every time I am teaching for example by following a simple rhythm on a drum, both my kids get bored quickly and start to do their own solo in total disharmony and crescendo-inly screaming along with joy… I try to not get upset as they obviously love it, but my poor ears are suffering these short but very intense music lessons… I think the best is to be patient, to have them enjoying it and understanding the different sounds. They now do work on their own drum patterns. Their is still a long way with guitar, but the interest is there and, especially A, they are exploring the range of sounds…
Score:1/2


Do programming tutorial once a month or more with K
Probably achieve that in average, he is keen on doing it. We discovered a free open source game called Colobot. He loves it (a bit too much maybe).  The idea is to use robots to colonise planets, by programming them to do all sorts of tasks like foraging uranium ore, tracking and killing giant spiders, etc… We are also learning together Csharp by learning how to build a game in Unity.
Score: 1/2


Write a weekly meal planner with K on Sunday
Still trying… Meals are nightmares! It’s the one area where me and my wife are struggling the most I think. Our kids are more and more fussy eaters, and we are far from being able to maintain a healthy diet. I have to say that we have high expectation to raise them with quality and healthy food, but we often end-up coking the same easy things that they like: pasta (gluten free), pizza, “pizza-pita”, fruit plate or cheese toasts… One good thing is that K, who is the fussiest of all, regularly enjoy a green juice/smoothie in the morning that includes cucumbers, courgette, spinach and avocado along with apples, pineapple, ginger, turmeric (root), lemon and sometimes proteins in powder like spirulina. He would never touched a courgette or spinach on its own or in a meal, yet he is happy to juice it himself!
Maybe I take that weekly Meal Planner project too seriously and I want something too perfect. I am thinking now that I should start with a typical week: Same day, same meal. Then allow some development from that strong base.
Score:0


Continue reducing gluten and sugar:
I am getting there, however there is still a long way until I will say no to a fresh croissant on a Sunday morning… I have recently reduced my sugar intake quite a lot in the morning by replacing sweet breakfast with an egg and a gluten free crisp-bread or seed bread and half an avocado. I realise that I like doing this especially after 15 minutes of high impact exercises.
Score:1/2


Go to groups and swimming pool weekly with E
I take one point even if we have not been to therapeutic swimming pool. Indeed th4e pool has been closed since start of year for refurbishing. I would have bring E to this pool if it was open. I will go back there with him from September. E has been to his weekly physiotherapy group and bi-weekly to our chiropractor.
Score:1/2


Have time for myself weekly to do what I like
I am not sure… I have been able to do more gardening. But not really been able to learn guitar or practice drums, cycle more, meet with friends,  programming, etc… So I know I need to do more to free more time for myself, and this is linked with the next wishes too.
Score:1/2


Spend time with my wife without kids more often
This time I put a zero, because since January this year, although there was some high hopes, we have been on our own, without any kids, only twice. We just don’t ask anybody to help us, beside there is not much people around us being able to look after 3 kids. So this is a area where me an my partner should really work on. Hopefully going back to France, I hope this year we’ll manage to have grand-parents and Family to enjoy their little English’s relatives.
Score:0


Go outside with kids more often, even when it rains!
I tried for a little while, weather has been really bad this year so far…
Score:0

 

Spend minimum 5 hours working weekly on Super Busy Daddy project
See below
Score:0

Post 1 article at least per month
THE BIG FAILURE! To my defence, I have worked on my transition town group’s website (TWiG) quite a bit. But again, I know what has been defeated me… A will to do something perfect… I have been working on hte Fornt page header very hard, first trying to do a 2D vectoriel drawing, then a 3D drawing, then thinking about photo montages, while not writing at all. Then I lost interest, I wanted to do something really good and I ended up writing nothing instead. So I decided to keep my Meerkats header for now.
Score:0


Spend at least 2 hours per week on Transition Town and Friend of the Earth activities
As stated in the previous resolution, I have been working on the transition website (TWiG), providing training to bloggers, creating and managing mailing lists. This is my contribution to such a group. I have not been able to work on Friends of the Earth activities at all, and not been asked to do so.
Score:1/2


Look for at least 1 ecovillage to visit this year
Finally, for this last resolution, full of hope, even if I have not contacted any ecovillage yet, I have done some research and I am going to contact two places near where my sister lives in France. I am so goign to do it that grant myself 1/2 a point for being so happy about thinking of doing it for real!
Score:1/2


My total score:
8.5 / 23 = 37%
It’s not really good.
I should review these targets more often to keep track, this will be easier if I work more often on this blog!
One thing is certain! I am Super Busy Daddy! And I still love it!

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